We all want to be there for our loved ones when they finally pass away. We whisper our last words to them and wait to hear theirs, holding their hand until they ultimately move on.
While this is a part of us that makes us human and will likely never change, new research leads us to believe that those holding onto their last breath are able to decide exactly which one it will be, and not everyone wants an audience.
Throughout history, societies all over the world have pondered on what exactly makes for a good death. For some, it was on the field of battle, others in their happiest moment, but most writings would have us believe that everyone wants to be surrounded by friends and family at the end.
However, new research seems to point in the other direction, but it comes with the shocking revelation that people can 'decide' when they are going to die.
It's commonly known that many people prefer to be alone when they are sick, not just because they don't want to infect others, either. It's often to not 'bother' the people who want to look after us and take sometime for themselves with their thoughts.
Now, nurses in hospices and hospitals have been reporting cases where people only pass on after their family had left the room, which points to some ability to control when they 'let go'.
Not only this, but those on the edge of death have been asked what they fear most, with many of them admitting that dying in an assisted-care facility is the worst fate they could suffer. In fact, they say this is much worse than dying alone.
So what does this mean? Well, you shouldn't cancel your flight home to say goodbye. You should try to spend as much time as possible with your loved one as you can, since you can't get that time back.
Be close to them, share your real feelings with them, make your promises, but if they ask you to step away, give them one last goodbye and respect their wishes.
After all, it's the last thing they will ever control.